Self-Soothing Vs. Self-Care — Is There a Difference?

The Urban Monk

Self-Soothing Isn’t Self-Care

Self-soothing is a distraction.

After all, why should we feel guilty about day-dreaming? About reading romance?

About filling an oil diffuser with a delightful scent, sitting on the ground, and just smelling it?

Self-Care at its Heart

When you step out of the bubble bath, will you still be drowning in credit card debt?

When you finish binge-watching a season of your comfort show, will you still have to have that difficult conversation with your partner?

When you’ve taken yourself out on a date to your favorite restaurant, will you still need to confront your boss about what went wrong last week?



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